If you really want to improve your parenting skills, get knowledge
that's accurate and reliable. Since the 1960s, a lot of research has
been going on in this area.
A few good books is all you need as
much of this research has been broken down. Consulting with your doctor
can also help you in this area. You can make an appointment with an
experienced child psychologist and probably get lots of recommendations.
Any parent that has more than one child will experience problem resolution on a regular basis. Kids will argue. That's what they do. And when they do, you need to be authoritative, stepping in to fix the problem. Yelling will never help them solve anything. You need to teach them how to resolve their issues. As long as you have patients, extra time, and the effort to do so, you can give your children valuable lessons that they will always remember. You'll need to keep a cool head and have patience as you rationally help them to work out the dispute. At some point, your children will have a clear idea of what you're trying to teach them. This first hand example that you give them, based on experience, will help them the most. To help them learn what to do, you need to be honest and open with them at all times.
There are different types of parenting personalities identified by research, and it helpful to know what type you are. The only way your contribution will be positive is when you are honest with yourself in a totally real way. Some parents discipline real easily, while others have a hard time, and that is the parenting trait that makes them different. There is a synergistic way that both spouses can work together to produce positive results. People can approach things differently, but that doesn't mean they can't come together as a team and complement each other. Maybe applying discipline is easy for your spouse, but not for you, and maybe there are areas your spouse can't do but you can. How you do this will need to be worked on, but it can benefit everyone when it is worked out.
There are many forms of research into parenting skills, and this experiment really caught my eye. Most of use grew up listening to our parents tell us don't do this or don't do that. Usually, a child will hear only what the parent doesn't want them to. Don't throw the ball in the house; so the child hears, throw the ball in the house. Whatever the parents don't want them to do, kids usually know that it is wrong to do.
The problem is that kids typically don't listen, and that's why the command is sabotaged. You need to be more positive with your kids, a strategy that will tend to make them hear you better. In most cases, if you tell them to simply put the ball down, this will work much better. Over time, you will accumulate massive amounts of information on how to handle parenting successfully. These 3 tips are just a beginning. When you are just beginning to learn about parenting, make it a goal to learn the major concepts first. When a situation arises, you can adapt what you have learned so it is specific to the situation at hand. This, then, is the best way a parent can be prepared. It's better than just facing each situation as it comes up with no advance thought.
Any parent that has more than one child will experience problem resolution on a regular basis. Kids will argue. That's what they do. And when they do, you need to be authoritative, stepping in to fix the problem. Yelling will never help them solve anything. You need to teach them how to resolve their issues. As long as you have patients, extra time, and the effort to do so, you can give your children valuable lessons that they will always remember. You'll need to keep a cool head and have patience as you rationally help them to work out the dispute. At some point, your children will have a clear idea of what you're trying to teach them. This first hand example that you give them, based on experience, will help them the most. To help them learn what to do, you need to be honest and open with them at all times.
There are different types of parenting personalities identified by research, and it helpful to know what type you are. The only way your contribution will be positive is when you are honest with yourself in a totally real way. Some parents discipline real easily, while others have a hard time, and that is the parenting trait that makes them different. There is a synergistic way that both spouses can work together to produce positive results. People can approach things differently, but that doesn't mean they can't come together as a team and complement each other. Maybe applying discipline is easy for your spouse, but not for you, and maybe there are areas your spouse can't do but you can. How you do this will need to be worked on, but it can benefit everyone when it is worked out.
There are many forms of research into parenting skills, and this experiment really caught my eye. Most of use grew up listening to our parents tell us don't do this or don't do that. Usually, a child will hear only what the parent doesn't want them to. Don't throw the ball in the house; so the child hears, throw the ball in the house. Whatever the parents don't want them to do, kids usually know that it is wrong to do.
The problem is that kids typically don't listen, and that's why the command is sabotaged. You need to be more positive with your kids, a strategy that will tend to make them hear you better. In most cases, if you tell them to simply put the ball down, this will work much better. Over time, you will accumulate massive amounts of information on how to handle parenting successfully. These 3 tips are just a beginning. When you are just beginning to learn about parenting, make it a goal to learn the major concepts first. When a situation arises, you can adapt what you have learned so it is specific to the situation at hand. This, then, is the best way a parent can be prepared. It's better than just facing each situation as it comes up with no advance thought.
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